What a title, eh? I hate to be the wet blanket…but my husband and I have just started reviewing our own personal files and are having those ‘hard’ conversations and I realized that this post would be relevant for our Hip Homeschool readers.
We’re preparing for the arrival of our fourth child and with that, comes great reflection. We are NOT guaranteed tomorrow. Neither my husband or myself. To believe that we are immune to tragedy because we homeschool and have small children is foolish of us. So, we’ve started making a plan.
I feel these steps are EXTRA important for homeschoolers. We have unique situations in which in the case of one or both parents death, our children’s world will be disturbed more so than most. There is no stable public or private school they would return to. Mom and Dad are the teachers, coaches, nurses, and counselors. *Some* of us also have ‘larger-than-many’ families. Grandparents or family cannot always step in with the demands of homeschooling families. We owe it to our children to have a plan. We homeschool to provide the BEST for them. And if something should happen to my husband or myself, I STILL want the best for them.
My husband and I followed these three steps:
1. Life Insurance
We have life insurance through my husband’s employer, as I’m sure many of you do. However, when we look at cold, hard facts….the lump sum if my husband were to pass away, would only allow me to pay off the mortgage and then find a new job. I would NOT be able to continue to homeschool. This is not acceptable for me or my husband. We contacted several life insurance companies and have started the process of taking out enough life insurance to insure that I could stay at home as long as needed to homeschool our children and survive comfortably. Would we be able to do all the extras? No. However, I could provide a stable environment for my kids.
On the flip side. What if I die? My husband would no doubt keep working and the children would need to be put in school. We’d want to provide a private school experience if this were the case. Meaning, my life insurance policy would still need to be substantial.
So, put pen to paper and ask yourself how much it would take to live the way you’d like and continue or discontinue homeschooling if need be. Some good questions to ask:
- How much will I need to stay at home and educate our children in case of my husband’s passing?
- If I were to pass away, will my husband continue the course? If so, what monetary amount would be needed to assist him to do that?
- If they MUST go to school, and we choose to pursue private schools, how much per year will each child need to attend? Until high school?
- What about purchasing them clothes, cars, extracurricular goals, etc.?
Here is the company that my husband and I are currently pursuing:
2. A Will
This is obvious, but I wanted to include a few links to reputable sites so that you and your family could start the process. I feel it’s especially important for us homeschoolers to have a will to direct our family and friends on how our children should be educated in case we pass before they are of age. Where would you want them to go to school? Who, if anyone, could continue homeschooling them? If any of your children are teenagers and capable of this type of conversation….you may even want to discuss what their wants would be in case of your passing.
3. A Written Educational Plan
Lastly, I’m working on writing up a plan for my children’s education for family and friends. This is mainly in case my husband and I were to both pass away at the same time. My plan will include
*A DETAILED explanation of each of my children’s learning styles, interests, anxieties, and struggles. (this will need to be updated as they grow older)
*A listing of curriculum companies that we’re using *in case* the grandparents or friends decide to continue homeschooling. Or really, even my husband. He is very involved, but doesn’t know all the curriculum choices I use.
*Lastly, a list of the extracurricular activities they are in. This will include contact information for each organization, address, location, etc. I’d want my children to keep up with all their pursuits if possible.
There it is. My Debbie Downer post! No, but really. This is how my husband and I are preparing. I pray to the Lord that my plan is just that…a PLAN….and that we won’t need it in the future. I pray that you all reading this are blessed by it…and NEVER need it!
Liz was a cheerleader swept off her feet by the football player back in high school. They’ve been married nearly eight years and are the proud parents to three young boys. She’d always envisioned working and sending her kiddos off to school so she could live the ‘normal’ American dream. However, life and the Lord surprised her and she’s learning to ‘redefine having it all’ while being a homeschooling housewife. She enjoys finding strength from God’s word, the Today show, talking on the phone with friends, and being real about finances and parenting. She’s blogging about homeschooling and much more over at The Hesitant Housewife.
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