So many moms who want to homeschool simply don’t know where to start. If you’re in that situation, this series of posts is for you! And if you need to talk with your husband about the possibility of homeschooling, this post is for you!
For some moms, the thought of talking to their husbands about the possibility of homeschooling is frightening. Maybe it’s not that your husband doesn’t want you to homeschool. Maybe it’s just that you’re not sure if he’ll support your desire or not. Maybe it’s that you’re afraid (or even certain) that he won’t agree to homeschooling. If this is you, then I hope this post will encourage you! With a bit of advance preparation, you can have a positive conversation with your husband about homeschooling.
1. First, keep in mind that men love to get to the meat of the discussion.
That means you will need to prepare ahead of time to talk with him. If you tend to ramble when you get nervous (like I do!), then you may want to actually make yourself some notes to go by. That way you won’t stray off track and frustrate him. And you’ll feel more confident if you know ahead of time what you’re going to say.
2. Read articles.
Read articles (or blog posts) about homeschooling. You know your husband better than anyone else. As you read homeschool-related articles and posts, think about what information would mean the most to your husband. Is he (or might he be) concerned about whether or not your children will be “properly socialized”? Is he (or might he be) worried that they won’t learn everything they need to know? And if you’re just not sure, try making notes on some issues that you find interesting and important. You may not even need to share the information with him, but you’ll have it if you need it, and you’ll feel better prepared and more confident when you get ready to talk to him. (At the end of this article, I’ll list some posts and articles you might find helpful.)
3. Gather statistics.
Many men love to see statistics. Giving your husband statistical information about homeschooling is a great way to get right to the point. If you know that your hubby is one who likes a short conversation and concrete information, this is a great way to handle it! (Again, I’ll give suggestions for sources at the end of this post.)
4. Be positive but not pushy.
Yes, you want to let your husband know that homeschooling is a great option. You want him to know that homeschooling will provide your children with a great education. It will give them opportunities to interact not only with peers but also those who are older and younger than them as well as adults. It will give you the chance to forge a strong relationship with them and to truly know them. There are so many great reasons to homeschool, and you will want to share them with your husband. But please keep in mind that you don’t want to try to “force” these reasons on your husband. In fact, this point leads me to the next point, so keep reading!
5. Give him time to think about it (without pressure!).
Remember that while you’ve probably been considering homeschooling for quite a while, this may be a brand new idea to your husband. It may take him some time to consider homeschooling and whether or not he thinks it’s a good idea. Once you’ve given him the facts and expressed your reasons for wanting to homeschool, give him some time to think about it without asking his opinion or pressing him for a decision.
6. Let him know that his approval and support are important to you.
Your husband needs to know that you’re on his team! He needs to know that you love him and value his opinion. As a homeschooling mom of 17 years, I can assure you that you will need his support if you homeschool, and letting him know that you value him and want his approval and support is very important.
7. Attend a homeschool convention.
This will help you prepare to homeschool, and it may help him feel better if he knows that you’re willing to learn more about homeschooling so you can do your best teaching your children. And if nothing else, it’ll be a lot of fun! Homeschool conventions can be a bit overwhelming the first time you attend, though, so you might want to go to a small local convention to begin with.
8. Ask him to attend a homeschool convention with you (if he’s willing).
Again, don’t nag your husband to do this, but if he’s willing, it might really help him to see so many other dads there supporting their wives in homeschooling. In fact, more and more dads attend conventions and more and more dads are involved in homeschooling now days. He might be glad to see that he’s in good company!
9. Get together with another homeschooling family.
If it’s not possible to attend a homeschool convention (or even if it is), it’s a great idea to get together with a local homeschooling family. If you don’t know one (or know how to find one), take a look at the links below this post for some helpful links you can use.
10. Pray about your conversation with your husband ahead of time.
The most important thing you can do to prepare to talk with your husband is pray! Pray ahead of time that God will help you know what you need to say to your husband. Pray that He will help you to stay calm and positive. Pray that He will prepare your heart (and your husband’s) for the conversation. And pray that God will lead both of you to make the right decision for your family whether or not you end up homeschooling.
Articles about homeschoolers and socialization:
- Socialization: Homeschoolers Are in the Real World
- Homeschooling: Socialization Not a Problem
- Socialization: Tackling Homeschooling’s “S” Word
- Homeschooling: Why Socialization Matters
Articles about homeschooling and academic achievement:
- Nationwide Study Confirms Homeschool Academic Achievement
- Homeschooling: Outstanding Results on National Tests
- Academic Statistics on Homeschooling
- Homeschooling Grows Up: Research Study on Adults that Were Homeschooled
Links to help you find a local homeschool support group:
What other questions do you and your husband have about homeschooling? Do you have other questions about talking to your husband about homeschooling? We’d love to address them in a future post!Photo Credit: Stock Images http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/